Ways To Attract Women

Your Guide On Ways To Attract Women!

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The How To Be A Player Guide – Are You The Selected Or The Selecting One When It Comes To Women?

admin — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 08:30:48 +0000

One thing that strikes me when I see the new guys entering the world of pickup is that they’re very accustomed to being the ones selected by girls. I mean, when you’re learning the skills to attract women you have to make many approaches, you see a set of girls and you approach them, hoping that the conversation doesn’t go sour.

And maybe you are making the mistake of not selecting the girl you want to attract before you made the approach.

Ok, I understand when that happens to the new guys. They are so focus on keep the conversation going that they turn their attention to the first girl that seem interested in them. But, what’s the point of that? You learn to attract women so that you have the power to attract the girl you want, not the first girl who’s giving you her attention. If you dig deeper you’ll understand why this happen:

Many of these guys are attracting the first or second girl in their lives. It’s only natural that they get excited and forget the girl that made them make the approach.

Now, I want you to ask yourself a question. When it comes to women and dating, are you the one selecting the girl you like?

Many of us struggle to approach and attract girls. And let me tell you: if you don’t have the skills to attract women you’ll be the one who’s getting selected all the time. And I’m being optimistic; many guys don’t get selected at all.

7 Reasons for a Woman to Hire a Coach of Her Own

admin — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 23:11:32 +0000

The coaching profession today is exploding…. Some coaches are certified and some aren’t. Some specialize in a specific area of life, i.e. business, relationships, money, spirituality, and some just take a general overview of your whole life. There have been articles; television shows that talk of life make-overs; Oprah has her own stable of coaches (some of whom appear on the cover the National Inquirer!) How can you find out more about what’s possible with a coach and why it might be important to you living your best life?

This article will answer that question with many compelling reasons to begin a coaching relationship. But first, let’s look at the 7 pitfalls that people (women specifically) can fall into trying to make it in today’s world. As you read them, take each of them to heart–enter into the feelings and thoughts that accompany each one—try it on and see what you notice arising in you.

This is the One of the Boys perspective. Things get delegated from the top down with no collaboration, just supporting the status quo. We’ve all experienced it. In order to get credibility or respect we will follow the rules and subjugate our authentic selves to fit in. Wanting to be in the ‘club’ is natural, but wearing a mask has a cost–our individuality and uniqueness.

Are you a Superwoman? Do you do it all, impressing everyone with your super competency, becoming indispensable? Well the end result I’ve seen from being this way is becoming a Martyr. Overworking yourself, because only you can do it perfectly, only leads to exhaustion and a feeling of resentment towards others, who never appreciate you enough. Righteousness with lots of judging others will drain your body and soul, making you dependent on the recognition from outside yourself.

Do you feel like you have no voice? No power? That you’ve tried over and over but nothing ever changes, so you give up all your sense of choice? You have no recourse, nothing will ever turn out for you, everyone is against you and you just shut down to get by. By not taking any responsibility–it’s always someone else’s fault–you remain innocent but the price is helplessness. Hard to create any dreams from here.

Many women have been taught that they will be rescued, so why take on anything themselves? Someone else has their answers and will sweep into their lives (one day) and take care of things–there’s no need to take action. My ‘real’ life will begin when I meet the right partner; take the right workshop; find the right job. In this scenario you become seduced by a myth that the answers aren’t within you. It can seem like an easy road, a free ride. Unfortunately you stay stuck as you wait…and wait….and wait.

Be the good girl. Do what your mother always did. Don’t rock the boat. Don’t create confrontation. Make sure everyone else is comfortable. Always bring sugar–which means ‘don’t be your real self’! We are all humans and have upsets, but the good girl can never share hers. This is a lonely perspective, where you will never be truly known. Perhaps it will seem like there is peace, but it is only a façade. It surprises many how these ‘gremlin’ voices can be disguised as sweet Pollyannas!

Never stop moving! Always be busy because your value lies fully in what you produce. Talk fast, multi-task, as Nike says: Just do it. Live in the myth that you are controlling time. The problem here is that you never can rest or listen to your own inner voice. How could you ever hear it when you’re agitated, restless and distracted? When you’re disconnected from your authentic heart, how real is your life?

This is the result of not making changes when you know they’re called for. Giving beyond what is reasonable as a human being, you lose your vitality, your spark and your clarity for what matters. Did you have a vision or a dream? Is it lost? That feeling of fatigue in your bones won’t go away and neither will the emptiness in your heart. Emotionally, you run the gamut from numb to being triggered by everything–tears or rage can erupt at any moment. When the price is this high, it’s clearly time to seek new strategies for living your best life!

Want to leave these unworkable strategies for life behind? Ready to create your fulfilling life? Let’s take a look at this thing called Coaching and the ways it can empower you to living your True Life. While you, as the client, are always in charge of your agenda and focus, your coach can assist you in becoming the Sovereign of your world.

Without conscious awareness of who you are, what you value and what are the hidden jewels of your heart, it’s very difficult to create your most meaningful life. The big job of coaching is all about fulfillment–what will bring you alive the most; finding authentic self-expression, joy and balance.

Here are some of the compelling reasons to hire a coach and create a powerful alliance to deepen your experience of life and move forward to living your dreams.

Life is certainly rich and we have, in our time, millions of opportunities and choices to make. But if you’re not clear on which ones are truly aligned with who you are, chances are they won’t bring you the satisfaction you want. Coaching is all about clarifying—your innate values, your vision, your goals. When you do this you discover not just what you want, but what you don’t want. Many people live their lives tolerating so much of what they have already. When you let go of these things and create a solid foundation, life becomes more rich and satisfying–you experience a lot more harmony when your choices line up with who you are.

With all the popularity of The Secret, many people are now talking about the Law of Attraction. Coaching steps in deeper by examining your beliefs and helping you upgrade your beliefs to ones that support who you are and what kind of reality you want to live in. This includes designing new perspectives of abundance and choice, rather than letting scarcity thinking–there’s never enough, I’m never enough–guide you. Questioning beliefs that you may have lived with for quite a long time can help you find your own truth. Turning around old thinking that isn’t necessarily true gives you more freedom to live as your real self today. Coaching offers these tools and the steady support to use them.

To be a great coaching client and get great results, you need to be curious. Curiosity is the foundation of learning. Coaching is all about learning who you are and acting on that knowledge. Embracing the perspective of a Learner is a challenge in a world that always expects us to have the answers. But it’s the learners that will bring the flexibility, curiosity and awareness to the world–their self-esteem isn’t predicated on what they know or on being right; it’s all about being successful. When we learn and expand our world, we can then take action in line with that learning–creating authenticity and continued discovery to help us move forward. Bigger awareness leads to better results. And in that awareness lays the path to bringing our true contribution to the world.

Have you ever told yourself you’d do something and didn’t? We all do. The power of the coaching alliance is that when you give your word to your coach–something different happens. Since your coach holds you as always resourceful, creative and whole, she knows you can do what you say, if you’re ready. There’s a ‘being held’ in a way like no other. And as we learn to keep our commitments to our coach, we develop more self-trust that leads us keeping them to ourselves. There is a power to the coaching relationship that happens outside of regular time and in Kairos, or sacred time. It is here that we can see ourselves so clearly and what’s possible that we take action we might never have imagined on our own.

Many people go through life thinking that they must do the job, to have the stuff to be who they really are. In fact this theorem goes just the opposite way. You be who you truly are, to have the self-esteem, confidence and clarity to do what feels meaningful and on purpose. Coaching helps you step into the space of Being–where you can really know who you are and fall in love with yourself and life–a feeling a lot of us had in childhood. To experience states of being is to be in the present moment. To know love and peace and creativity–all of these are in the Now. If we let ourselves be run by Velocity Jane, life flies by in a blur and we miss the best moments of all.

Have you noticed that Life is a Mystery? That you can’t control everything and push the river to make it go where you want? Today, more than ever, we must learn to let go and embrace change. Staying in a contracted State only solidifies resistance, and as someone said, ‘Resistance is futile.’ In coaching we take a stand that change is here for our highest good and the good of all we touch. Instead of resisting, we surrender to wisdom beyond our own. Many things are going on beyond our five senses, so we learn to listen deeply to our intuition and tap into that bigger Source. This actually brings relief, freedom and new eyes to see the world. We can embrace life as a possibility and adventure!

Have you ever had someone in your life that holds no agenda for you besides what you yourself say you want? Have you ever been seen so deeply that is creates a feeling of empowerment you’ve never known before? Your coach is your packed house, your cheering crowd! It doesn’t mean your Coach isn’t honest with you–on the contrary, truthfulness is foundational. Your coach though will call you away from your inner and outer critics, and truly ‘get’ you. Having an objective sounding board, being acknowledged and championed just gives you more momentum for more success. Haven’t you always wanted to be in a relationship with someone who saw your best self, truly saw the most extraordinary you and would never let you forget that that’s who you are?

So, 7 unhealthy perspectives to fall into one way and 7 empowering reasons to choose another path–which one will you take? Which road takes you where you want to be; gives you what you want to feel and helps you create the life you’ve been longing for? Are you hearing the call to hire a coach and become the Sovereign of your Life? At this moment, what small action can you take that will begin the journey home to your True Self? Only you… the best You can do it!

How To Easliy Make Women Laugh

admin — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 22:59:01 +0000

Making a woman laugh is one of the greatest things you can do to make yourself look more appealing and get more women, period. If celebrity culture teaches us anything, it is that men who know how to make women laugh have just a slight advantage over the ones that make women drool. Any man that can make women laugh has a good chance at winning her heart. Women love men who make them laugh because they feel comfortable around them and are more likely to give them an opportunity to purse them. Learning how to make women laugh is simple, and by following a few short tips you can joke your way into the heart of the girl of your dreams.
Relax & Have a Good Time
Taking the stress out of the situation and making a woman laugh is all about relaxation. Forget about trying to make women laugh and concentrate on having a good time. If you are relaxed and making an effort to ensure you both are having a good time, making her laugh and relax will simply just happen. When you focus too much on jokes, you can get nervous and botch the jokes. Try telling her a funny or crazy story that you have heard recently or perhaps even survived. Revealing something, even a bizarre encounter, shows her that you are relaxed and let’s her know that she can also relax and enjoy her time with you. Just being able to relax and speak to each other on an enjoyable level can really bring things to the next level.
Smile
When you smile at a woman rather than eye her like a piece of meat, she is more inclined to relax and smile back. It is proven that smiling can actually reduce stress. This works similarly when it comes to being able to make women laugh. Smiling is a precursor to laughing, so if you tell a funny story and you are already smiling you will have inadvertently led her right into a laugh! In addition, smiling let’s her know that you are friendly and have no bad intentions, whether that’s really true or not. With that said, don’t sport an ear-to-ear grin the entire night or you’ll creep her out instead of make her laugh.
Be Happy
This one sounds like a no-brainer, but men spend so much time forcing the situation that sometimes neither party can possibly enjoy themselves. Try just being happy before you approach your dream girl, and the rest should fall into place. If you’re in a good mood, your body language will broadcast it before you’ve even opened your mouth. Unfortunately the opposite can also true so be careful. Regardless, actually being in a good mood is the best way to put others in a good mood and making them laugh. If you need to give yourself a pep talk or a shot of courage, do what you need to be happy and confident before you approach your dream girl. Be sure to pick up your free seduction report and pick up the woman of your dreams.

Learn How Women and Men are Different When it Comes to Interpreting Flirtation

admin — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 19:27:46 +0000

People have different levels of dealing with issues. Have you ever thrown in a comment in a conversation but it turned out to be disastrous? Yeah, that is what i mean. Before you learnt the different types of people we have, your jokes must have landed you in deep shit. This happens to flirting too. Men are very loose with flirtation lines and they sometimes suffer for it. When a man is flattered the reaction is different from when a girl is flattered. Flirtations are the main cause of temptations. This greatly determines the level of relationship between a man and a woman. In a recent study, single men have a tendency to look at the women they have just met in a negative light. They see them as guilty till proven innocent. When interpreting flirtation, women see it as hitting on them. Women react in a positive way after meeting the potential partner. If you flirt with a woman, chances are she will take you seriously and encourage a romantic relationship. Women might be wrong in interpreting flirtation because they are very sensitive to feelings and will open themselves to emotions at the slightest show of interest. Men flirt for fun and they do not expect anyone to take it seriously. This explains why they do not see it as a threat to romantic relationship while women find it a dangerous threat to a relationship. If a woman is not ready to leave her current relationship, she is going to be hesitant to flirt. Men who are already married will flirt around and have no fear of compromising their relationship.The study has revealed that women resist temptation if they think it can in the least affect their relationships. In other words, men are shy to ward off temptation. Men and women are different at interpreting flirtation. Men rarely see flirting as temptations. To them, it is just pure innocent interaction. This is because, according to research they are not shaken by interacting with available and attractive girls. Otherwise, if it meant anything to their constant relationships, they would be putting some effort to avoid the temptations. Some 70 unsuspecting males were used to carry out the research. They were made to flirt with attractive women after being introduced into a strategy aimed at helping them learn how to avoid flirting and tempting women.The researchers observed the reaction of all the men as they were being approached by exceptionally attractive women. Most of them ended up with start up lines like “wow, you are pretty, did the sun come out or did you just smile?” This was off course pure flirtation. Men are flirt animals and no amount of teaching strategies will change their view towards flirting. Women felt flattered and their reaction suggested that they believed every single word. Their way of interpreting flirtation might lead to more heartbreaks. No wonder they will hail abuses at a man who shows any sign of flirting without seriousness. Women are very trusting beings and they believe what they hear more than what they see.

How To Flirt With Women In 7 Easy Ways

admin — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 19:27:44 +0000

A lot of guys have been asking me what we men should do for body language, so this column will give you the answers: how to recognize female body language, how to react to it, and how to use your own body language to flirt with women successfully, from start to finish.You have to remember that whatever you say, however you gesture your hands, arms, head, and eyes, women are NOT taking your movements at face value. If she jokes with you and you lightly push her away as if to say “Stop”, she’s taking that simple gesture as something more: interest, dis-interest, enjoyment, annoyance-any of a million different signals. She’s reading it for further suggestions as to what kind of guy you are, and what your interest in her is. Know that with body language, girls are always reading the way you move and act!Here are my “Lucky Seven” best ways to show interest:The confident eye gazeThe “Dale Head Drop”Smile!Open body languageLean in to herThumbs in beltTouch herLet’s look at each in more detail:1. The confident eye gazeThis is how you start your interest. Nothing shows confidence off the bat like meeting a girl’s eyes, and KEEPING YOUR STARE. If you see her look down and smile, you know you’ve made it and the time to approach is now. If she looks away from you but doesn’t smile, give her a shot nonetheless; just the fact that she met your eyes for a second or two shows interest.2. The Dale Head DropSo named after the guy who mastered the art of getting women rushing to his side, just with a simple shrug! If you really want to blow away a girl-and show some balls-meet a girl’s eyes, then knowingly drop your head to the side, as if to say, “Hey, you know you want me. Come over here and get me!” I’ve found this to work incredibly well in foreign countries. In the States, the girls tend to be able to see through it a bit more-but it still works!3. Smile!It’s often overlooked, but nothing communicates happiness, confidence, and interest in a girl all in one like a nice big smile. Show the girl you’re in control, show her you’re confident, show her you’re a fun guy to be around: brighten the place up with a big smile! And if your teeth need work, then get them fixed! It’s good not just for your chances of meeting a girl, but also for your health and appearance!4. Open Body LanguageSo many guys walk or sit with their arms crossed, their legs close together, and their faces anxious and flat. Stop that! Welcome a girl into your world: Have your arms open and leaned back, your legs open and relaxed, your face warm and inviting. You’ll not only attract yourself into a girl’s world, but also into the world of people at a party, club, or bar who can help you meet a future girlfriend-or even wife!5. Lean in to herAs you’re talking to a girl, especially while seated, show her your interest with confidence by leaning in closer. You don’t want to be a creep, of course, but you can generally tell by a girl’s body language and talk how interested she is in you. If things are looking good, show her your control of the situation-and interest in her-by leaning in and generally getting closer to her. Leaning back does the opposite; it shows you’re unconfident and not overly interested. Not what you want to communicate.6. Thumbs in beltEver put your thumbs in your belt, with your hands at your hips’ side? This is processed as a sign of being confident in one’s sexuality and size. So if you’re standing around at a bar or club and want to convey confidence, this will certainly be understood by girls!7. Touch her!Yup, nothing gets you closer to a girl than physical touch. Great conversations and emotional/spiritual chemistry are great, but if you really want to take it to the next level, you’ll have to eventually show some balls and touch her. I’m not talking about grabbing her and making out (unless it really is going that well and she’s flirting out of control!), but doing little things: brushing your arm by her shoulders, lightly massaging her, leading her by the arm to another location in the place. By making a physical connection, you’re giving her a sign loud and clear that you’re confident in yourself and interested in her.

Flirting With Women – Never Make These Mistakes

admin — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 11:11:51 +0000

Flirting with a woman is one of those things that is a common struggle for most men. You might feel awkward or even “lost” when it comes to flirting with a woman. However, if you want to be a success with women, then you have to know how to flirt with her. Most guys are not exactly the best when it comes to flirting. This is what will separate YOU from the rest of the pack that approaches a girl, especially if you are in a bar or a club.

Here are some things that you should NEVER do when flirting with a woman:

1. Let your body language show your nerves. A lot of men will look down at the ground or put their hands in their pockets. They end up using submissive body language around women and this is NOT going to make HER feel attracted to YOU. You have to be able to use confident and sexual body language to attract a woman.

2. Use pick up lines. This is the kind of, I don’t know what to do approach. Using a pick up line will make you seem like one of those desperate college kids that is trying way too hard to get laid. You don’t want to give off this vibe. Most women will reject you just because you tried to use a pick up line on her.

3. Try to “hypnotize” her. This is one of those 1970′s leftovers that some guys today still swear is the secret key to attracting women. For the most part, this as useful as trying to use a played out line. For one, hypnosis only works if she wants to be hypnotized AND if you can get her in a quiet environment. In a public place, this is usually not an option.

These are just some of the many mistakes that men make when flirting with a woman. And you should NEVER make these mistakes if you want to taste REAL success with women.

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7 Fun Pickup Lines For Women To Use On Men

admin — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 10:47:30 +0000

Women often don’t meet a lot of the type of men they want because they’re shy and not used to it. Well… get over yourself!

It’s a dog eat dog world out there, and if YOU want to find a great guy and what you’re doing isn’t working, it’s time to try something new.

Now a pickup line is only going to get things started and it’s up to you to make things work, but getting the conversation started is usually the hardest part, so I’ve put together a nice list to make things easier for you!

Now sometimes the usual, “Hi, my name is X” works great, but then things can suddenly cool off, and the situation could quickly get awkward. So having a clever pickup line can start off the conversation with a laugh, which can often turn into a great memory later on.

Here are 7 pick up lines that range from cute to corny for women to use on men:

There you go! 7 completely different conversation starters that are sure to be memorable and make him laugh.

Go have some fun with them. And when you’re ready for more tips, check out my website that teaches how to talk dirty and other tips and tricks men WISH women knew.

Evan Michaels

How To Successfully Date Young (and Hot) Women

admin — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 10:47:26 +0000

If you’re over 35 years of age and would like to learn how to date younger women then this article will be critical to your success. When referring to “younger” we mean the age of consent. There are many men who are in their 30s, 40s and even 50s who prefer younger women. They each have their own reasons. Some men prefer younger women because they tend to have less hang ups, less emotional baggage, and aren’t as eager to jump into a serious relationship. But usually it comes down to the level of energy and physical beauty. And that’s what most want anyway. Some men like to date younger women because it makes them feel younger. Whatever the reason there are a lot of men that prefer to date younger women.

In general, men are afraid to approach women because they are afraid of being rejected. This is no different for men who want to approach a younger woman but don’t want to appear to be “the dirty old man.” In reality some women actually prefer older men. I recently got turned down by a 25 year old woman because she only dates 40 year old men and older (I am in my mid-30s). It was ok because I eventually met a 27 year old graduate student who preferred dating an older man. First, a man has to realize that some women, especially in their 20s may think of dating an older man as “gross”. But that is her problem, not yours because there are other women who will find you “sexy”.

Some dating experts recommend that you completely change the way you dress, the way you talk, and even change your hobbies so you will be more attractive to a younger woman. I partially agree with this strategy. You shouldn’t go out and try snow-boarding if it does not appeal to you. It might make more sense to take dance lessons instead which is a great way to meet younger women. Younger women who like to date older men are typically looking for a more mature, financially stable man who will accept her for who she is. In fact, many younger women will think that you won’t want to date them because they are younger, so when you first talk to them you should tell them about a date in the past where you did date a younger woman. That way she will know you are totally ok with it.

A great place to meet younger women is on the Internet. You can put out your own online profile and specifically state that you are looking for a younger woman. Don’t be surprised when all the older women start e-mailing you and challenging you that they are more qualified to be with you than some young woman. I once received an e-mail from an older woman who wrote me “I have a lot more to offer than any young gal!”. Wow, some people take things way too personal. Another place to meet younger women is at church singles groups, night clubs, coffee shops, bookstores, shopping malls, college cities, music concerts, food fairs, restaurant openings, plays, and the list goes on and on.

You must be proactive in your approach and realize that this is a numbers game. The more women you meet the more phone numbers you will obtain. The more phone numbers you obtain the better the odds of you meeting that special someone. And remember, just because some women may not find the idea of dating an older man a good idea, doesn’t make it true. There will always be women out there that want to date an older man. Always.

Overcoming Your Fear of Rejection

admin — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 07:48:15 +0000

Seconds grind by like hours, and you can feel the moment gurgling away like drain-o down a sewer. You’re vaguely aware there’s a play to be made here, but you’re totally unprepared. Something distracts her then — she turns away… the train pulls out, she gets into a cab, the bell rings for class. The moment vanishes like a ghost as though it had never existed in the first place. But you will see it over and over again in your mind won’t you? Re-played a hundred times.If you’ve ever known the agony of watching a chance encounter ripe with romantic possibility slip away while you stood helplessly and watched, then you know all about the lowest moment in a man’s life. Fear of having our romantic advances rejected by a woman still remains the #1 most difficult aspect of trying to hook up. And it may in fact be worse today than ever before in the past. After all, when have men ever been at such a social disadvantage to women as they are today… what with the complete collapse of any sort of culturally insistent need for them to act subservient in our presence? When have they ever been as sarcastic, demanding or casually judgmental of our fumbling actions?… or as secure in expressing them — since they now have the full protection of the law (including government and corporate anti-harassment rules) protecting them from any serious blowback?This makes the job of romantically approaching a woman a momentous chore for those of us who don’t happen to have a monster set of brass balls helping us out. I’ve done a lot of study and thinking about this subject (not to mention experiencing some delightful kicks in the teeth during the course of my, ah… research), and it seems to me there are THREE critical understandings to know about concerning this fine art of meeting women:1) You need to have some kind of standard icebreaker. And I’m not talking about some worn-out conversational opener like “been here often?”. Stop and think for a moment — most of us (unless we have some sort of severe social anxiety that requires psychiatric treatment) usually have no real problem making casual small talk with people, even perfect strangers on the subway, and really… even with hot chicks. If you knew in advance that you were only going to walk up to a girl and have a conversation about the weather, why… there would hardly be any anxiety involved in THAT, right? So then why all the fear?Because we know that if our true desire is to “pick her up”, then somehow we will have to do SOMETHING SPECIAL in order to change that mundane conversation over into a romantic one — and THIS unknown “something” that we have no clue as to how to do is what scares the hell out of us!I call this essential yet frightening transitional moment in a man-woman exchange “the icebreaker” — and like I said it is our uncertainty over just how to make this verbal “crossover” without looking like a complete fool that lies at the heart of our fear of rejection. Here in Dr. Frankenstein’s “seduction lab” I like to devise various little work-arounds for these types of nasty problems.One interesting conversational device that I’ve actually had a surprising amount of luck with is something I call resigned speculation. This is where you ask “The Question” by framing it in a manner that makes it seem like there is, of course, little or no chance of her responding in a positive way: “Listen, I know I’m probably crazy imagining that someone as (attractive, cool, stunning, vibrant) as you would be free to (have dinner, grab some coffee, get a drink) with me some evening…?” And then (the tough part) let that question just hang in the air until she’s forced to react. You’re speculating, you see — resigned to the fact that it’s probably just a pipe dream that anyone as gorgeous as her would be in a position to take up your wistful offer. See? This sort of oblique approach is disarming, charming and non-threatening to most women… especially if you present it in a playful and teasing manner.Resigned speculation is a great way to casually cross over the boundary from friendly stranger to romantic possibility without having to make that high-pressure, sweaty “verbal hit” that many of us just can’t bring ourselves to do. I’ve actually been stunned at how many times women will immediately jump at such a seemingly “oh well…” kind of offer. Not always of course, or even most of the time truthfully, but I’ll bet it’s been around 30-40% of the time in my experience… and in this crazy and unpredictable game baby, dat ain’t bad!2) Whatever you decide your icebreaker is, you need to standardize that statement for yourself, write it down… AND DRIVE IT WAY DOWN DEEP INTO YOUR UNCONSCIOUS MIND! That’s because when the moment arrives and you see a great looking girl and have a perfect opportunity to approach her… your nerves will start to jangle, your mind will blank out and pretty much just flatline on you. And when your skull is empty, you are powerless my friend.You need to do whatever it takes to make this phrase as easy to remember as a song lyric that you’ve heard blasted a thousand times on the radio. Something that you can ‘sing’ on a moment’s notice in any situation… a park, an elevator, a party. Otherwise you are merely carrying around a lot of book learning in your head, but you haven’t cultivated any actual SKILL yet.3) The ability to meet and seduce women is one of the most difficult things that we will ever have to learn how to do as men. Maybe if you’re currently training to land the next generation of Altair spacecraft on the moon in 15 years you’ve got something tougher going on in your life, but for the rest of us this sad fact remains basically true. The point is that you’ve got to understand the magnitude of this life challenge in order to give yourself a break and set yourself free any sense of shame that could still be lingering from past failures and fouling you up. Your behaviors are always just an expression of your most persistent thoughts — and if those thoughts constantly linger on how much you suck and how hopeless and helpless you are, then your life’s reality will follow suit… and it too will come to suck.Begin by losing any “emotionally scarred for life” type of crutch that you might currently be hobbling around on. Nobody gets to ride any sob story for life, I don’t care how horrible it was. The shelf life expires someday. You must develop the determination to press on and become as good as you need to be at this aspect of your male existence. Some of you will want to become big time players for instance, while others may be looking for a wife or girlfriend. Many of you just need to get laid and then allow that event to guide you where it may. Decide at what level YOU need to play this game, and then approach the task of acquiring the necessary skills to do so in a logical and rational fashion devoid of any “clouding” emotions such as bitterness or despair. This is how you eventually get good at charming women, it’s no magic.Mike Pilinski overcame an incredible case of rejection phobia by learning how to mimic certain key behaviors that women find attractive in high status males, the resulting success now forming the basis for the methods that he teaches. Visit Mike’s website at http://0845.com/jxV to see his highly acclaimed e-book “Without Embarrassment” and the brand new HSM Audio Training Series: “Dealing With Your Fear of Rejection”.http://0845.com/jxVI thank you for taking the time to read this short report and I sincerely hope you take actionand make your life happier and wealthier for the better.JanuszJanulis© 2003-2009 World Marketing Media, Inc.